An open Letter to the Sweat Pants

Dear Sweat Pants.
To borrow a line from a prominent Nigerian comedian
SOMETHING JUST HAPPENED AND I AM VERY ANGRY RIGHT NOW
you Mr sweat Pant have been around for a while, i never took you seriously nor did i for a second thought you would be against me nor my fellow sisters. Mr Sweat Pants (especially the grey colored one) you have terrorized me for far too long, i have been nothing but nice to you, you are properly cared for, nurtured and well taken care of, sometimes you get to got to the laundry for some TLC and when you get back you are kept in a cool relaxing environment. i mean what else could a sweat pant want?

I ensure you don't get stuffy, nor do i take it lightly when any form of stain attacks you in any circumstance. i immediately get you washed, ironed and safely tucked in.

So imagine my surprise when  you get in between an argument that does not concern you. the person i am conversing(fighting, angry with, pissed off  with, who deserves my uttermost anger but every other time you get in the way. clouding my judgment, weakening my resolve, making me melt like butter under the sun, seriously WHY? WHY? WHY?
I love you Sweat Pants i do, but  that time will come when i will send you to the shredding machine, you can quote me on that.

Your's faithfully
Sweat Pants Victim

conversation on the go.

I had the most interesting conversation today with a good friend.
it was one of those discussions that one topic leads to another and another and well time passes by.
one of the chain of topics that caught my attention and stayed till way after the conversation was our disagreement on the scripture of 1st Corinthians 7:4.

I was of the opinion that despite the fact it is stated in the bible that my body(as a wife) belongs to my husband does not mean i lose myself in the process. The man(husband) might have some preference regarding many things which involves my body does not mean i don't have a say in it.

for example my dear friend mentioned that if a wife does not please her husband in (for this discussion lets use cloths) cloths he shows interest in she puts her marriage in a compromising position, giving the devil armor if you will to attack her home, leading the man to seek other interest outside the home.(hmmmmmm) personally i feel a man who cheats will always cheat no matter how obedient  and submissive you are to him as a wife.
I understand with my friend to a certain degree but i stand by what i said earlier, a woman should not loose herself in the journey to please her man. she should not change how she looks (except she is not happy with it) she should have a mind of her own, have goals and desires, she should not be ashamed of who she is and having an opinion is not a sin.

Dear men please woman are humans too, we think and feel like you, we have dreams and aspirations just like you, don't deem your wife's light simply because you feel it is your right. Love her, love her body as well as her mind, dreams, goals and help her flourish.

so here is my question

Corinthians 7: 4
does it refer only to the body(sexually) or every aspect of the person's life.
Let me know

THE BUS STOP

Bus stop don’t stop

The bus stop is just what the name implies, a BUS STOP

Despite the stop; it happens to be a transitional point to another destination, a worldwide connection of different destination points, connected by a bus stop i strongly believe the six degree of separation applies here.

The first thing you will notice when you get to a bus stop is the symphony of activity; its environment carries an aura of temperance.no matter  where you sit, stand or where you  spend the night(bed and breakfast) you know fully well thousands have been there before and thousands would still visit that exact spot. the chatter never stops, hawkers with their unique marketing strategies, the ladies selling food (mama put), the roasted meat seller (mai Suya), the mechanic, the bus conductor looking for change, and occasionally the group of men discussing the latest football match at the newspaper stand, and of cause not to forget the smaller groups who get in a fight or two, the money doublers, the list goes on, just fill in the blanks.

The drama at a bus stop is so interesting, and fascinating one thing I notice about this particular place is that no matter how delicious the meal is, how comfortable the vehicle is, how danceable the music being played is the passenger never stays there, the passenger would not say hmmmmm I like this place I think I will settle down here. The passenger always passes. The best the bus stop can get from a passenger is a short term patronage and a quick farewell, the same thing happens every time a passenger arrives at the bus stop.

The bus stops in life are no different, identify every bus stop in your life, don’t set camp, don’t lay a permanent foundation, make the most of it and when it’s time to move its time, no excuses, no delay, no procrastination, don’t listen to the voices of those who choice to remain at the bus stop, don’t get carried away by the activity and how close you are with them, your journey is different, when your vehicle is ready to leave, say a quick Farwell and head to your next level. Selah